Had a rather unpleasant experience today where I could feel the judgement through the phone, over missing some appts because they will not work with my schedule. I understand my entire pregnancy is important, but honestly with my experience in prior pregnancies, the only time they actually do anything is the initial appointment with the ultrasound, bloodwork, the anatomy scan (all done already) and then closer to due date when making plans for delivery. All the other appts they check a heart beat for 5 seconds. I already know my baby has a heart beat because I feel her moving every day. They told me I haven't established care yet, but I've had 2 appointments in the office, bloodwork, and one at maternal fetal medicine for the anatomy scan. The first appt I had a confirmation ultrasound so I'm not sure why that wasn't the "establishing care" appt. She said something about how this is what I signed up for when getting pregnant and I have to make the time work... as if I planned this, and as if everyone can afford to risk losing their job. If I had planned this pregnancy, I would have never left my last job. My new job had no PTO yet. If I feel I need an appt, I will come in. Obviously my baby is more important than my job, but it's also important to not lose my job or else how can I afford to care for my children? I'm just a little upset that if this is an office that has evening hours, why not make accomodatioms for a struggling pregnant woman? Anyway, maybe just some things to think about before placing judgement. Like I was told... I will just have to make it work.
